The Engagement process...

This past week in the class we had the opportunity to talk about the some of the struggles and trials that many couples first have when married. When first engaged this whole new world is opened up to you and you start to plan for one of the most important days in your entire life. This can become an overwhelming when trying to plan for this wedding that you potentially want to have very soon in the future. Thus begins this new journey that you and your fiancé get to take together, wait but for some this isn't the case. When planning for this wonderful event it should be planned with the help of friends and family but not entirely with them. It is very important to get the help from family and friends but most don't really include this new soon to be husband help in any of the planning. In class we talked about how this is a lost opportunity for the man if he is not able to be apart of this new planning process. It has been found in studies that if you let the man help with this planning process then you will be able to drive better in the future.

Another topic that we discussed in class is how many could do nothing but the planning for the wedding and don't plan for the actual marriage. Like I said above we need to include the husband but when it becomes too much and we don't art to plan about the little things like, where the couple is going to live after they are married, how many children they want to have some day, and other things then this could potentially jeopardize the couple. When planning for a marriage we need to be able to find a good balance between the two and if we can't that is when the problems start to arise.

The Wonderful Subject of Dating

This past week in class we got the opportunity to be able to explore the topic of dating in todays society. In the beginning of the week we were asked to make a list of possible ways to get to know someone so that you could eventully ask them out on a possible date. Some of the important aspects that my professor touched on this week in the importance of these four concepts, togetherness, talk (mutual self discloser), time, and know. Each of these topics play a key role in any relationship and in especially getting to know that special someone that you've had an eye on for so long. Being able to work with your partner on all of these key topics will definitely make your relationship grow in one way or another.

Later on in the week we had the opportunity to talk about the different stages in a relationship, this then consists of dating, courtship, engagement, and then finally marriage. But after you enter that marriage dose not mean you are done dating them or courting them. It is important to remember that we need to be constantly putting our full forth effort into a relationship so that we are then able to have that better relationship with our significant other. One of the final things that we were able to talk about in class this week is the three things that truly make a date a date. The three that my instructor talked with us about was a date needs to be planned, paired off, and paid for. The reason that these three are the main characteristics is because without these there is no date whatsoever. If you have any insights to dating please comment down below I would love to hear from you all! Have a wonderful week!

Understanding a sensitive subject

 This past week in my family relations class we touched on some very sensitive topics that were very hard to discuss but helped me understand further the importance of this subject. The topic that we discussed was about understanding same sex attraction. When I read that this was the topic that we would be discussing in the coming week I almost thought this was an answer to a prayer, someone very special in my life at the moment is having a hard time dealing with this and all I could think is ho important it is for me to understand this subject. Before class we were asked to watch a video on this topic that geared toward this topic. It was specifically for men that are currently dealing with this problem and they talked about their won experiences dealing with same sex attraction.

It was quite inspiring to hear these men tell stories about something that they were currently dealing with or something that that they were able to overcome. Overall I was able to pin point some things that helped me understand the situation much better so that I can then take what I've learned and apply it to my own life at this specific time in my life. In conclusion to this topic we talked about how many deal with same sex attraction and have been married for manny years then these feelings start to arise and are able to overcome it in some way. This topic is very near and dear to my heart but I'm so glad that we are able to openly discuss these sensitive topics.

The Cost of Getting Ahead

This past week in my family relations class we talked about the struggles and trials that many Mexican American families have when they immigrate to America. At the beginning of the week we were given this article that talked about the steps required for a a family down in Mexico to get to America, truthfully I thought I had a decent understanding for the requirements to get to American but in all reality it takes a lot more then I realized. In short they have to send over the father first so that he can find a place to stay and begin to earn money for their family back home so that they can eventually make it to the United States, this process takes about 3 years. Then the family has to start their journey to America and that could take up to 6 months for the family to get over depending on who they go through to get across the boarder. Once the family is then reunited they are all undocumented so no one in the family can get a decent job, therefore everyone is stuck working in jobs that could potentially pay very low and that is usually the case. At the end of reading this article it made me have a deeper understanding and appreciation for what any of these families go trough in order to get to America so that their children can have a better life and better eduction in the future.

After reading this article I arrived to class the next day and my professor wanted to do a demonstration about the families that travel from Mexico. Basically what he did was ask for  volunteers from the class to represent a family from Mexico and they then made up a scenario about many of the situations that Mexican American have to go through. When we were able to do this I feel that it gave me more of an understanding of what these people have to go through that are undocumented citizens. Furthermore on the subject it gave me more of an appreciation for being born in a country that has given me so many wonderful opportunities to go to school, among other things.